A quick search
of ‘Feminism’ on Google reveals the following:
1. Kim Kardashian- 'Will continue to click
nude selfies', shows middle figure to the society, at the Emmy Awards in the
wake of women liberation movement. .
2. Urban Dictionary- Feminist is a psychotic
hoe who is hungry for a dick but doesn't want to show it.
3. House of Cards star Robin Wright went
public on her demands for pay parity with her co- star Kevin Spacey.
4. Of course I had free
sex: How feminist Kavita Krishnan’s mom silenced a troll on Facebook.
5. Delhi-Based Female Writer Shuts Down Body
Shamers with Powerful Poetry.
India
is a misogynistic country with a patriarchal set up which needs to be set
right. Because Indian men are lecherous and do not respect female species
at all. Hence, hard hitting pictures of menstruating girls, videos bearing
social messages, bras and pink panties flung open on the roads, celebs and Bollywood
stars (men, women and transgenders) propagating the message in their social
space to drill some sense into the Indian system is LEGIT
I grew up in a
nuclear family of 4, my Father and Mother and we two daughters. Birth of two
daughters fulfilled my parents’ desire of ‘We two, Our Two’ and never did they
contemplate the idea of having a third child for the possibility of a son. I
went to a co-ed school where my teachers advocated friendship between boys and
girls. Picking up law as my college degree, even when I had no law background
and a flourishing family business in my legacy was appreciated and never
debated. Periods, Waxing, Male Attraction and Women Anatomy are discussed in my
environment with ease and without a meme. My parents have always been
acquainted with my dating life and have never shamed it but have imposed restrictions
if it caused me to compromise on my life goals. I am in my late twenties and am
single but neither of my parents are frenzy over my ‘ageing’. They are rather supporting
me in my career switch. I socialise, go clubbing, wear the kind of clothes I
like and enjoy my alcohol. But this rosy picture has had its glorious moments
of thorns as well. I was inappropriately touched and fondled as a child. My
parents kicked the ass of the molester and made me learn a life lesson to never
be a victim but a fighter. I was inappropriately stalked by a male senior at
work. I made a hue and cry about it, made the stalker public. He lost his job
and his name. I had a sexist for a boss who considered women counsels as
adornments of client interaction only. I confronted him at every step. He
despised me, I loved my womanhood more. I left my job with my head held high.
I AM THE ‘FEM’ IN THE
FEMINIST.
I AM A FEMINIST AND A VERY PROUD ONE.
I AM A FEMINIST AND A VERY PROUD ONE.
Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social
movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve equal
political, economic, personal, and social rights for women. Nowhere does it
embody men hatred and/or elevation of women to a pedestal of worship and idolism.
It breathes Equality, Equality where women are positioned at the same level as
men.
Feminism
is not an alternative for nudity under the garb of liberalisation. How is
flashing breasts/buttocks/vagina a step forward in women’s movement of
equality? The whole hippy philosophy of being in sync with God’s creation is utter
rubbish. Women are born with boobs, ass and vayjay, they grow with it and are absolutely
aware about their functionality. And as far as men are concerned, they are more
than okay with them. It’s the exhibition of the face only that they are to get
accustomed with. The Kardashians can pop champagne bottles with their bum but
that is not why an ass was given to us, right? You know what is right propagation
of Feminism? When Julia Roberts on her first visit to Cannes Film Festival, decides
to walk the red carpet barefoot, so as to raise the legitimate ‘middle finger’
to the stuffy, old male dominated whiners who run the Festival and had decreed
last year that women had to wear high heels. – the pathetic sexist claptrap. I am not belittling nudity as a form of
protests, maybe I am too naïve to understand its importance but those protests come
under the category of nudism and not feminism. Feminism is when women from all caste, creed,
colour and religion protest for a unified marriage law in India. Whilst some
protest with burqas, some protest with a skirt and blouse.
‘My Choice’
which has no reason of sound logic, is another misunderstood territory of ‘Feminism’.
Instead of talking about rape, female foeticide, domestic violence, harassment
at workplace, pay gap, the intrusive male gaze or a million other issues that a
woman has to deal with everyday, the rebellious answer to everything crazy as ‘My
Choice’ is plain bizarre. Flaunting an anorexic body or an obese lifestyle is
not an agenda for women liberation movement. Anorexia is as much a disease as
obesity and needs attention. Adultery and/or having multiple sex partners is
not Feminism. It is abusive and psychotic. Similarly having a progeny is not
solely a woman’s choice. The egg fertilized because of a sperm. The donor of
the sperm does have a legitimate say to the offspring. To copy the worst male stereotypes, leching, calling names, dominance of
a gender, abuse relationships etc., and deciding that women need to do all that
to come at par with men, is not Feminism. An eye for an eye makes the world
blind and not a Feminist.
Another
misconception about Feminism is being a Man-Hater, being a Misandrist. The term feminism is as
much for men as it is for women. And inflicting pain to the entire men specie
just because a few have a caged mind is atrocious. There is enough of place for
you and me under the sun and my outcry about my place does not mean I need your
spot. I need an opportunity to create mine. And just for the record Feminists do
like men, emotionally, physically, sexually, it’s just that in most cases they
prefer brain over brawn.
Any
cultural norm to which men are not subjected to is considered a key result area
of Feminism. I am a Punjabi and I like the chuda ceremony and might just wear
it on daily basis post my marriage. It’s my choice. How does it subordinate me
to my future husband? Similarly, fasting, keeping a karwachaudh, wearing
sindoor or wearing a niqaab/hijab belittle women. It is a personal choice. I
like it, it doesn’t barge into your happiness, how the fuck is it a problem
then? Yes, if it is forced on me, then it is my movement of women liberty, it
is my movement of Feminism. Feminism is creating a congenial home environment and
closing a million-dollar deal at work place.
A bed of
roses, with legal privileges and full authority to misuse them is not Feminism.
It is being an Asshole. The Indian Judicial System has adorned women with far
more privileges than men, which is legit and needed. However, if one misuses
the privileges in the garb of plotted woman empowerment it is pathetic and
lowly. 498(A) of Indian Penal Code is the favourite of all the vamps. Why?
Because if my privileges of being a woman clash with reason and logic, I shall
evoke my weapon of being a victim of Domestic Violence and charge my in laws
and husband under 498(A). Feminism is not about eradicating the social structure
altogether rather of sieving the vices from it.
The aim of
feminism is to ensure men and women are equal. That's the world I want. Not the
one where my empowerment comes at the cost of pain to others.
For me
Feminism, is when:
Ø When one witnesses one's domestic help gleaming bright and
distributing 'ladoo' because his first time pregnant wife gave birth to a 'girl
child'.
Ø When a woman who is raped is
not victimised by the society but supported to lead a normal life ahead.
Ø When equal pay for equal work
is applicable on both men and woman, at parity.
Ø When education and career takes
a front seat for a woman.
Ø When marriage and child bearing
is celebrated and not glutted down the throat of a woman.
Ø When woman genital is not used
as a colloquial word for idiot/dumb.
Fem in the Feminism is good
cause for uplifting the society of its vices not for crashing the social structure
altogether.
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