Who you marry is the single most important decision of your life!

Love is hyped. Happily ever after is a farce. 7 years itch is today's 2 years bitch slap.

So do I still believe in the institution of marriage? Yes, I do.

But I do not see marriage from the rosy tinted glasses of love. There is more to marriage than love and romance and good sex. It is compatible syncing of energies of two individuals. It is complementing personalities and innate natures of two beings. It is common goals and dreams of two lives. And whilst there are common visions and missions there needs to be respect and honour for each other. And that yields to a good marriage or association in non conventional terms.

I am in that phase of life where marriage topic sells faster than hot cakes. I have been fortunate to have vicariously lived matrimony through the looking glass of my parents, friends and colleagues. And I have learnt and learnt well to draw my own inferences.

Marriage is not a be it all of life. It is an important milestone, just like college was, just like first job was. I really feel pity for the people who call marriage/wedding as 'the best day of my life', for their life has been really boring and unmemorable. Therefore, the hyped orgasm attached to marriage and wedding is a bubble. Having said that, but the reason of getting married and who to get married to is definitely the most crucial decision of one's life. And this is for the simple reason that marriage attaches one other individual to your dreams, to your goals, to your visions and to your missions. And the presence of the other individual can either harness your capability to achieve the above or sublime you for condemning the same. And therefore who to marry is the single most important decision of your life.

I have been raised in a Hindu household where marriage is a sacrament. Honestly, for me it's too fairyland to be true. Marriage is a partnership but without a constant watch on the balance sheet. It is an association of carving yourself as a better person, as a more capable person, as a more inspiring person. And this is not to prove the authenticity of marriage but to appreciate the individual lives bestowed on the parties.

We, individuals resonate on energies and energies make our environment. If we associate with individuals (in matrimony) whose energy resonate with ours we have the coveted good marriage. But if the energies are at loggerheads with each other it results in adding further to the pending litigation in family matters in courts.

We live in interesting times where women are financially independent, strongly opined, aware about their legal rights and standing and the most important not shackled by society norms and taboos. Therefore, marriage today is a business of equals and therefore more potent or more vulnerable. The flicker nature of life and the advent of logic and reasoning in our daily lives has made us reach the conclusion that nothing is more important than life and it's mission.

While being single, the success of our life is our sole proprietorship and so is its liability. But a well reasoned decision of getting married divides the liability and further harnesses one's capability of being a success in one's life.

In the end, quoting a friend who dated a guy for 10 years and then got married to him, "6 months into the marriage and love is out of the window. What lasts is how similar your lifestyles and life goals are".

Thus, Mr. Darcy or Mr. Gatsby has many shades. For one it could be their dreamy chivalry and for the other it could be their vulnerability infront of a woman. Make sure when you decide, you have reasoned well on what shade suits your palette. And let time, society, biological cycle not be a constraint.